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Should you consider a 'Sleep Divorce'

It might sound dramatic, but the term sleep divorce is becoming a hot topic among couples. Far from signalling trouble in paradise, it’s a decision many couples are making to improve their rest. But what exactly is sleep divorce, and is it the right solution for you? Let’s explore this fascinating topic, uncover the reasons behind it, and look at practical steps to improve sleep without compromising your relationship.

What is ‘sleep divorce'?

Simply put, sleep divorce is when couples decide to sleep in separate beds - or even separate rooms - to ensure a better night’s sleep. While it might seem extreme, it’s often a practical response to common sleep challenges. And it’s not as rare as you might think: recent research shows that 1 in 4 UK couples have tried sleeping apart to improve their rest.

But what’s driving this trend?


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Why does sleep divorce happen?

Everyone’s sleep needs are unique, and shared sleeping arrangements can sometimes lead to sleepless nights. Here are some of the most common reasons couples consider sleep divorce:

Temperature Differences: One partner might feel too warm under a duvet, while the other is constantly cold.

Snoring and Restlessness: Snoring or frequent tossing and turning can leave a partner exhausted. If this is a challenge in your household, you might find our podcast Snoring Effects and Solutions helpful for practical advice on this issue.

Mismatched Sleep Schedules: Different work hours or bedtimes can make sharing a bed tricky.

Bedding Preferences: Some people prefer a heavy, cosy duvet, while others need something lighter and cooler.

Menopause: For many, menopause brings changes in body temperature regulation, such as hot flushes and night sweats, making it difficult to stay comfortable under the same duvet.

At Devon Duvets, we’ve heard from countless customers about how these challenges affect not only their sleep but also their relationships. It’s a reminder that sleep is deeply personal, and finding solutions can feel overwhelming.


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Does sleeping apart mean trouble in your relationship?

Not at all. In fact, many couples find that addressing sleep challenges—whether through sleep divorce or other solutions—can actually strengthen their bond. Here’s why:

  • More energy - When both partners are well-rested, they feel more present and engaged throughout the day.
  • Less irritability - Quality sleep reduces tension and makes it easier to navigate daily challenges together.
  • Improved communication - Rested partners are better equipped to resolve conflicts and connect you emotionally.

The key is making it a shared decision. If sleep divorce is approached with open communication and mutual understanding, it can feel empowering. However, if one partner feels pushed aside, it can lead to resentment. Honesty and compromise are essential.


Happy couple relaxing together on a cosy bed, enjoying better sleep with tailored bedding solutions.Happy couple relaxing together on a cosy bed, enjoying better sleep with tailored bedding solutions.

What can you do about it?

If you and your partner are considering sleep divorce—or if one of you is already spending nights on the sofa—there are steps you can take to improve your situation.

Communication is key

  • Have an honest conversation about what’s disrupting your sleep and how it’s affecting you both.
  • Ensure both partners feel heard and acknowledged.

Create a sleep plan together

  • If you choose to sleep separately, establish routines that maintain your connection, like spending quality time together before bed or sharing morning rituals.

Consider tailored bedding solutions

  • You don’t always need to sleep apart to solve sleep challenges. Customised bedding, such as dual tog duvets (Three Duvets), can allow each partner to choose their ideal comfort level.
  • At Devon Duvets, we offer wool bedding that regulates body temperature naturally and ensures both partners can sleep soundly—even under the same duvet.

Occasional Togetherness

  • If sleeping apart becomes the norm, make an effort to share a bed on some nights. This helps maintain the intimacy and closeness of sleeping together.


Couple having a heartfelt conversation about improving their sleep habits together.Couple having a heartfelt conversation about improving their sleep habits together.

A real-life story

Take Sarah and her husband, for example. They had drastically different sleeping preferences - she was a hot sleeper, and he always felt cold. After years of restless nights and even considering separate bedrooms, they decided to try a dual tog modular duvet system from Devon Duvets called Three Duvets.

The result? Both of them slept soundly, and they no longer felt the need to sleep apart. Sarah’s story is a testament to how tailored solutions can help couples overcome sleep challenges while preserving the closeness of sharing a bed.

Final thoughts

So, is sleep divorce the answer? For some couples, it might be. But it’s not the only option. By understanding each other’s needs and exploring tailored solutions, you can improve your sleep and strengthen your relationship.

If you’re looking for bedding solutions to help you sleep better together, visit our website. We’re here to help you and your partner find the rest and comfort you deserve.

At Devon Duvets, we believe that better sleep can lead to a better life - together.


Couple in a comfortable bedroom with breathable wool bedding for improved sleep quality.Couple in a comfortable bedroom with breathable wool bedding for improved sleep quality.

Q&A: Common Questions About Sleep Divorce

1. What is 'sleep divorce'?

Sleep divorce is when couples decide to sleep in separate beds—or even separate rooms—to improve their rest. It’s not a sign of relationship trouble but often a practical solution to issues like snoring, different temperature preferences, or mismatched sleep schedules.

2. Why do couples choose sleep divorce?

Couples often choose sleep divorce due to factors such as:

  • Temperature differences (one partner is too hot, the other too cold).
  • Snoring or restlessness disrupting sleep.
  • Mismatched sleep schedules.
  • Differences in bedding preferences.
  • Menopause-related hot flushes and night sweats.

These challenges can make it difficult for both partners to get quality rest.

3. Is sleep divorce bad for a relationship?

Not necessarily. In fact, sleep divorce can improve a relationship by allowing both partners to get the rest they need. Well-rested couples are more patient, have better communication, and feel more engaged with each other during the day. The key is making it a shared and mutually agreed decision.

4. How common is sleep divorce in the UK?

According to recent research, 1 in 4 couples in the UK have tried sleeping apart to improve their sleep quality. It’s more common than many people realise and highlights the importance of prioritising good rest.

5. What are the main reasons for sleep divorce?

The most common reasons include:

  • Temperature differences between partners.
  • Snoring and frequent tossing and turning.
  • Different work schedules or bedtime routines.
  • Disagreements over bedding preferences.
  • Menopause symptoms, like hot flushes or night sweats.

6. Can couples avoid sleep divorce?

Yes, there are ways to address sleep challenges without sleeping apart:

  • Communicate: Talk openly about sleep issues and work together on solutions.
  • Create a Sleep Plan: Maintain shared routines, such as spending time together before bed.
  • Tailored Bedding Solutions: Consider options like dual tog duvets or wool bedding, which can regulate temperature and meet individual needs.
  • Occasional Togetherness: If separate sleeping arrangements are necessary, plan a few nights a week to sleep together and maintain closeness.

7. What is a dual tog duvet, and how can it help?

A dual tog duvet allows each partner to customise their side of the duvet to their ideal comfort level. For example, one side can be lighter and cooler for a hot sleeper, while the other side is warmer and heavier. At Devon Duvets, we offer a dual tog duvet modular system called Three Duvets and a range of award-winning wool-filled duvets that naturally regulate body temperature, ensuring a restful night for both partners.

8. How can menopause affect sleep for couples?

Menopause can cause hot flushes and night sweats, leading to disrupted sleep for individuals and their partners. Customised bedding solutions, like breathable wool duvets, can help regulate temperature and make shared sleeping arrangements more comfortable.

9. What should couples do if snoring is causing sleep divorce?

If snoring is a major issue, consider exploring solutions together. You can watch our podcast episode, The Truth About Snoring, for advice on identifying causes and practical remedies to reduce snoring and its impact on sleep.

10. Are there alternatives to sleep divorce?

Yes! Instead of sleeping apart, couples can:

  • Use customised bedding, such as dual tog duvets, to meet individual preferences.
  • Invest in natural materials like wool, which helps regulate body temperature.
  • Try maintaining shared sleeping routines or occasionally sleeping together even if separate arrangements are the norm.

If you have any questions about our products, then please get in touch with the team, and we'll be happy to help.

Smiling couple enjoying the benefits of better sleep after resolving sleep challenges.Smiling couple enjoying the benefits of better sleep after resolving sleep challenges.